Autism-Friendly Holiday & Event Survival Guide
Practical strategies for navigating holidays, family gatherings, and special events with your autistic child, including preparation tips, sensory accommodations, and coping strategies.
Holidays and special events can be joyful occasions, but for autistic children and their families, they often bring unique challenges. The Autism Speaks Holiday Tool Kit offers additional resources for families navigating this time.
Understanding Holiday Challenges
Common Holiday Stressors for Autistic Children
- Disrupted daily routines and sleep schedules
- Unfamiliar environments and travel
- Overwhelming sensory input (lights, sounds, smells)
- Large gatherings with many people
- Pressure to interact socially and show gratitude
- New or unexpected foods at meals
- Changes in caregiver attention and availability
Preparation Is Key
Pre-Event Preparation Strategies
- Create visual schedules showing what will happen during the event
- Use social stories to explain traditions and expectations
- Practice meeting relatives through photos and video calls
- Visit venues ahead of time when they're less crowded
- Discuss what foods will be available and plan alternatives
- Practice gift opening or other traditions at home
Creating a Sensory-Friendly Environment
Sensory Accommodations
- Identify or create a quiet space for breaks and regulation
- Bring noise-canceling headphones or ear defenders
- Consider reducing flashing or blinking lights
- Have fidgets and comfort objects available
- Plan for food sensitivities with familiar alternatives
- Provide weighted blankets or lap pads for calming
Managing Social Expectations
Strategies for Social Situations
- Practice greetings ahead of time and allow preferred greeting styles
- Prepare scripted responses for common questions
- Let your child use alternative ways to show gratitude
- Allow breaks from social interaction
- Educate family members about autism and your child's needs
- Don't force physical affection like hugs or kisses
Having an Exit Plan
Exit Plan Elements
- Communicate with hosts that you may need to leave early
- Establish a code word or signal for when your child needs to go
- Know where your car is and keep keys accessible
- Have a quick goodbye script ready
- Plan a calming activity for after leaving
- Celebrate successful participation, even if brief
Educating Extended Family
Talking Points for Family
- Brief overview of autism and how it affects your child
- Specific accommodations that help your child succeed
- What behaviors to expect and why they occur
- How family members can positively interact with your child
- What to do (and not do) if your child becomes overwhelmed
A Personal Note from the Monico Family
"Holidays used to be incredibly stressful for our family. When our son was diagnosed with autism at age 8, family gatherings felt impossible—the noise, the crowds, the disrupted routines. But over time, with the right preparation and understanding from our extended family, holidays became enjoyable again. Now, running Buzz ABA in Concord, NH, we help other families navigate these challenges so they can create their own happy holiday memories."
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Schedule Free ConsultationFrequently Asked Questions
How do I explain to family why my child can't participate in certain traditions?
Focus on what your child CAN do rather than limitations. Explain briefly that certain activities are challenging due to sensory or routine needs, and offer alternative ways your child can participate.
What if my child has a meltdown at a family gathering?
Have a quiet space identified in advance where you can take your child to regulate. Stay calm and avoid adding pressure during the meltdown.
How long should I stay at events?
It's often better to leave while things are going well rather than pushing until a meltdown occurs. Start with shorter visits and build up over time.